13 Incredible Tips For a Successful Marriage

13 Incredible Tips For a Successful Marriage

Are you thinking about marrying your boyfriend/girlfriend, but don’t know if it will work out? Do you want to make sure that when you do get married you want to have the best marriage ever?

Maybe you are already married and wondering what some of the most important things in a marriage are to make yours work.

This article will provide strategies needed for a successful marriage.

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TIPS FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE:

couple hands holding beaded cross over Bible

1. Keep God a priority in your marriage.

Once you and your spouse have a genuine relationship with God, everything else will fall into place.

God looks out for us and once you commit to him, he will keep your marriage unbreakable. As a Godly couple, you will learn how to love one another during the good times and bad times.

Pray with each other and pray for each other. Always.

God will show up no matter what. He will help you through the difficult times to get you to the better times. Trust in him and your marriage shall be everlasting.

This has helped us learn how to keep God in our marriage and continue to guide us through challenging times.

couple lying in grass reading a book together on blanket

2. Try your best to marry the person that is the best for you. Read this article to learn the best qualities to find a partner before you marry them.

Having a connection with your spouse is key to a successful marriage.

Your marriage will be off to a great start if you marry the person that you have many things in common with; one that has the same morals and values as you.

Your choices in life will become easier if you are connected emotionally, spiritually as well as physically. You will grow as a couple throughout your marriage.

affectionate young couple together on hike

3. Always trust one another.

Your marriage will not survive if you do not trust each other.

You must trust your spouse in all that you do. Showing how much you trust your spouse, will in return show how much you love them, and they will trust and love you just the same.

It’s okay if your spouse makes mistakes, but that shouldn’t mean that you don’t trust them. No one is perfect, and everyone can learn from their mistakes including you.

Give your spouse opportunities to show you that you can trust them. If your spouse continues to show you that they cannot be trusted, seek ways to build that trust back again, if possible.

Trusting your spouse means you can go through all of the adventures of marriage with each other’s interests at heart.

couple standing at fair hugging one another

4. Compromise! Compromise! Compromise!

How many times have you heard “Marriage is a two-way street.”?

Well, marriage is a two-way street. It’s not always about you and how you think things should go. If you are asking for something from your spouse, be willing to make sacrifices too.

If you want your spouse to watch less football, then you will have to give up some social media time too.

“Marriage is a two-way street. ”

The more you can meet in the middle and compromise the better the future will be for your marriage. This is one of the most important marriage success tips.

lady looking away from man as he argues with her at table

5. Don’t practice getting into petty arguments.

Petty arguments are when couples argue over things that are not important.

If you are arguing about him shaving over the bathroom counter and leaving hairs all over the place– that is a petty argument. If you are arguing that the dinner she made was tasteless– that is a petty argument.

These types of arguments will carry over into dangerous territories. When you start and engage in these types of arguments, you risk this becoming the norm in your marriage and before you know it, every day you will be arguing with each other over nonsense.

It’s just not worth it. Let it go.

Find out why it’s not important to always be right in this article.

lady embracing man from behind

6. Don’t ever be controlling of your spouse.

We are all individuals and we are not the same person.

Let your husband or wife be them. Isn’t that what you fell in love with?

It’s important to let your spouse be true to themselves and not change because it’s inconvenient for you. You wouldn’t want to change for another person, right? And you really shouldn’t.

If your spouse loves painting the stars in the sky, let them. If you love yoga in the mountains, feel free to do that.

You should never want someone to do what you say just because you said it. That is not a marriage and you should recognize that a person who loves you will never try to change or control you.

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7. If you do have a wonderful marriage with a loving spouse, show appreciation.

Practice showing appreciation daily in your marriage.

Show your husband or wife how much you love them day in and out. Give thanks for even the small things they do for you.

Most importantly, don’t ever feel like you are entitled to what you have. That wonderful spouse and treatment that you’ve been given can be taken away from you at any moment.

If you’re wondering how exactly to show appreciation, the simple words of “I appreciate you” is more than enough. Wake up every morning and express your appreciation to your spouse.

amorous guy kissing his girl with red rose

8. Show your spouse kindness.

This may be difficult for some of you, but you really need to try hard and be kind to your loved one.

Even if you had a bad day or you’re tired, you cannot make this an excuse to treat your spouse however you want. Nobody wants to be mistreated.

I understand that your hormones may be out of whack, the kids aren’t listening, or your spouse has an annoying voice. Nothing gives you a reason not to treat your spouse with respect. If you need a break, take one and come back with kindness.

couple being romantic wrapped up in each other arms

9. Romance is not just for movies.

Ladies and gentlemen, never let the romance die.

When you were young and hip, you were on the romance train every night. Before you had kids, your living room turned into the scene of a romance novel every Wednesday.

Keep the romance in your marriage. Being romantic helps keep the spark going in the relationships.

This may be the best advice for newlyweds as they are just starting out. Remember what makes each other excited and keep it going.

“Keep the romance in your marriage.”

couple on bed together in romantic mood

10. One way to keep the romance going is to go on date nights.

Take your spouse out on dates. Just because you are married, don’t let that stop you from going on dates.

No one says you have to plan a trip to Paris or reserve dinner at the Ladurée French restaurant. Get creative for your dates.

Take your wife outside on your patio that you cleaned up and placed beautiful flowers on display at the table. Cook breakfast or dinner, light some candles, look into her eyes all night and speak all the words to cause those butterflies in her stomach go pitter-pat.

What about that extra space in the family room? How about turning that into Meet Me on Mondays date nights?

Check out these fun and affordable “at home” date night boxes for you to enjoy!

couple sitting on couch talking and listening to each other

11. When your spouse is talking to you, make sure you are listening.

Listen to your spouse when they are sharing things that are important to them or even just about their favorite TV show.

Put your cell phone down or turn off the baseball game and give your spouse all the attention. Listening to your spouse shows them respect and also helps you to keep in touch with them.

You learn their needs and wants as you listen. You help support and show kindness when you are a good listener.

couple hugging each other and smiling

12. When my husband’s voice gets low and he becomes snappy, I know he’s tired.

In a marriage, it’s critical that you learn how to speak your spouse’s love language.

When I start to get upset easily, it’s usually because I’m hungry and my husband knows to feed me ASAP.

Learning to speak each other’s love language eliminates the guesswork and frustration of trying to figure out your partner and their behaviors.

You can solve and prevent problems when you understand what and why your partner do the things they do. Maybe your husband’s legs start to fidget when he gets nervous. If so, you can help calm him down without him saying a word.

Do you know your spouse’s love language? Learn the love language of your spouse to have a better marriage.

13. Don’t drop the ball on your appearance or self-identity.

Just because you are married, doesn’t mean you can let yourself go.

If you were always healthy and fit or made sure your hair was pretty, try your best to keep at it.

Try to keep those things that attracted your spouse initially. If you were a businesswoman and wore business suits and walked with confidence, stick with it. If you were a young man that smelled delicious, was tall and slender with a nice smile and very smart, keep those qualities.

Don’t get rid of those characteristics that made your spouse attracted to you and fall in love with you. Work hard to keep them. Work hard to keep your appearance and self-identity.

You are who you are. Never lose yourself in a marriage.

You now have 13 great tips on how to have a happy marriage. The most important characteristics of a good marriage includes:

*Keep God priority

*Having a connection with your spouse

*Trusting one another

*Compromise

*Preventing petty arguments

*Don’t be controlling

*Show appreciation

*Be kind to one another

*Keep the romance

*Date nights

*Be a good listener

*Speak your spouse’s language

*Never leave your true self behind

Need more ways to improve your marriage? Check out these articles:

How Do I Become A Better Husband to My Wife?

How to Become a Better Wife and Improve Your Marriage

15 Helpful Parenting Tips When Working At Home With Your Spouse

Do you have any happy married life secrets? What makes your marriage successful? Leave your tips for those who want to get married in the comments below. We’d love to hear from you.

62 comments found

    1. Sometimes we tend to want to talk and offer suggestions instead of listening. Or just not listen at all. I think this may be an area many of us still need to work on. Thanks for stopping by!

  1. I absolutely love and appreciate this blog post. Trust is such an important part of a relationship. Thank you for sharing this. Bookmarked!

    1. Yes Katherine! You are spot on with this one! Things can change at any moment. I think this is why it’s also important to really know your spouse before committing to marriage as well. Thank you very much for visiting!

  2. Great tips! My husband and I have been married for 3 years, together for 8. To go along with one of your points of showing appreciation, I have read that men respond better to words of encouragement and thankfulness. So now I make sure to tell my husband how much I appreciate when he does anything!

    1. Thank you! You guys are definitely on the path to a successful marriage when you’re able to show how much you appreciate each other. Wishing you many more years together! Thanks for visiting!

  3. Love all of these tips. Probably the best insight I’ve received is “The closer you both are to God, the closer you will both be to each other” 🙂 and my grandpa told me 35 years ago when I got engaged “It’s give and take”!
    Great post!

    1. Thank you! Yes, your souls become one once married and God will continue to protect your union, as the love continues to grow for each other. Your grandpa was right, that’s indeed one way you create a balanced marriage. Thank you so much for visiting!

  4. This is really great advice. Every single one. I have been married for 15 years and still am so happy and in love! I agree 100% on all of these points.

  5. We need to go on more date nights! After 26 years of marriage this gets forgotten sometimes. I will be making it more of a priority, thank you!

    1. You’re welcome! I think sometimes we get so comfortable in our daily routines we forget the little things that can ignite the sparks. Date nights definitely help us to fall in love over and over again. Thanks so much for visiting!

  6. I have a great marriage and these are great tips! I feel for those who have a marriage that is lacking. We are always laughing. We love getting home to hang out together. We were friends first and I think that plays a big part in it. We actually like hanging out together.

    1. Thank you! I agree. It makes my heart sad when I hear about married couples that aren’t happy with each other. Everyone deserves a happy marriage. Laughing is huge in my marriage too. We are both goofballs. We were also friends first and have had a great connection from the start. Wishing you the very best! Thanks for visiting!

  7. These are great tips. After nearly 28 years of marriage, I can definitely see areas of needed work in Connection, Romance, and Speaking our spouses language.

    1. Thank you Kendra! 28 years, wow! Congratulations! Recognizing that you do need to improve in some areas, is an awesome start. THAT alone puts you on a path to a successful marriage!! Wishing you the best. Thanks for visiting!

  8. I like the “be a good listener” too. You can learn far more by listening than you can by talking. And kindness, so important! What a great list.

    1. Thank you! For me, listening helped a great deal. Instead of just waiting to talk back, I listen to him– not just hear him, but listen and understand him. This helps me to learn so much about him and his needs. Thanks for stopping by!

    1. You’re welcome! Marriage is alot of work, but after many years of a happy marriage, you get to look back and see it was worth it! You get rewarded with the everlasting marriage you’ve always dreamed of. Thanks for visiting!

    1. Congratulations on your engagement! I’m happy to hear that you’ve found your true love! I wish you two the best and hope you have many happy years together! Thanks for visiting!

  9. These are great tips. When you are younger, you sometimes don’t realize how important these are until there is a mistake that tarnishes the marriage and recovery from that is so difficult. It is similar to when you are young and your parents say “wait until you get older-you will understand” Similar situation here. I hope your tips help others before its too late!

    1. This is a great perspective! I think that there are too many marriages that aren’t working for so many reasons and many times the issues could have been prevented, and like you said sometimes trying to fix things seems impossible. I do hope that couples that seek help do receive it. Thanks so much for stopping by!

  10. This is a great article! I especially agree with putting God first and keeping him in your marriage. Thanks for some great things to think about and put into practice!

    1. Trust is very important. Your spouse has to be pick up where you cannot. You should know that your spouse will be there for you no matter what. I wish you guys the best! Thanks for visiting!

  11. I agree with this list. Especially showing appreciation. It is so easy to get caught up in the day to day and forget to do that, but it goes a long way when done.

    1. Absolutely, Lisa! Some may feel like showing appreciation is automatic in a marriage, but it’s not for some. When your spouse shows kindness it’s always worth it when you show them how much you appreciate them. Never take that kindness for granted. Thanks so much for visiting!

  12. Honestly, I usually end up shaking my head with posts like this, but these are some GREAT tips and ideas. I’ve been married fro 23 years and, no, it hasn’t been easy. It’s when we get down to implementing these kinds of ideas in our marriage that we start to flourish again. I specifically love dating my husband and I do love the knowing each other’s love languages – soooo important.

    1. I am so glad to hear how important these tips are. I’m also happy to know that your marriage continues to grow when you begin to work hard at it and take the necessary steps. Congratulations on your 23 years together! I wish you many more happy years! Thanks so much for stopping by!

  13. This is such a sweet post! I love your advice, sometimes we forget to keep the romance going in a marriage., but it’s so important

    1. Thank you Marina. Yes, sometimes we get so comfortable we forget that one way to keep the fire going is to include romantic date nights into our relationships. Thanks so much for visiting!

    1. Thank you! I’m hoping that more and more married couples seek the best strategies and tips for what could make their marriage a success, which may help prevent heartache in the future. Thanks for visiting.

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