3 Important Qualities You Need From a Partner for a Successful Relationship

Recently, I watched a very popular dating TV show. On that show, there was a young man that was very interested in dating a young lady.

That young lady thought she would give the guy a chance and get to know him. He was different from what she usually dates, but figured she was on a dating show, so might as well give this guy a chance. The guy was very into her and made her laugh and have so much fun.

The young lady was having the time of her life, however didn’t feel like he was her typical kind of guy that she normally dates, therefore she was very hesitant in committing to the guy. The guy, on the other hand, didn’t hold anything back and gave it his all as he felt this was the girl of his dreams.

Ladies, have you ever dated someone that wasn’t your typical catch? Guys, have you ever dated a woman that you never in a million years thought you would have given a minute of your time?

Many of us did decide to take that risk, while many of us declined. We may have an idea of the kind of partner we want and even the kind of partner we don’t want. We even go as far as making a checklist with the characteristics we want in a partner.

But what if someone comes along that was nothing close to what we thought we wanted, and wanted to give us the world? Just because that person isn’t our typical guy or girl, do we just reject the idea of trying to see if you can have a relationship with that person?

Picture this, you walk into a store to get a few things, and bumped into someone shopping in the same aisle as you are. You exchange a few words and thought this was a delightful person. On a scale of 1 – 10, you give this person a 7 on the ‘hotness’ scale, however, you thought this person did catch your attention and you enjoyed talking with them.

You eventually exchange phone numbers and now you guys are just ‘hanging out’. You’ve always wanted to date someone who’s three years older, loves sports and loves to cook. This person is three years younger than you, hates sports and loves to read poetry. You hate poetry. Just not what you would normally be into.

However, every time you hang out with this person, you laugh so hard, are inspired so much and just can’t wait to spend more time with them. Deep down you feel this just may not work out because you want to spend Sundays watching sports and this person hates sports.

Or maybe you hate polyester pants, and this person has 16 pairs of polyester pants for date nights. What do you do?

What if it was the other way around? What if this person checked all of your boxes on that checklist, but every time you go on dates, you are bored and just don’t feel excited or happy to be around that person?

Do you keep trying and maybe over time, things will change? Do you expect that person to start changing their ways just for you? Would you want to keep forcing yourself to kiss that person, knowing you’re not even that much into them?

How do you keep dating someone that checks all your boxes on paper, but drives you far away in person?

I think so many of us probably lose out on love because of this scenario. We tend to disregard what is right in front of us and keep looking for something that may never be.

If someone is willing to love you for the rest of your life, but they are two feet shorter than you are, does that mean it will never work out? If someone is willing to take a bullet for you, but they have a bald spot, does that mean your relationship is doomed?

If someone wants to hold your hand every second you are walking together, does that mean your hand will suffocate and you need to rescue it by ending the relationship?

I think it is very important to look at what type of characteristics from a partner you need to commit to a relationship. This is different to your wants.

You may want a partner that is tall, slender, strong built, college-educated, beautiful long hair, or rich. I could go on and on, but are these things that you need from a partner in a relationship?

Sure, these things can increase the attraction to your partner, but if your partner doesn’t have these things, are they not capable of providing the love that you are looking for?

At the end of the day, what’s more important to you? Is the size of your girlfriend’s waist or the kind of shoes your boyfriend wears more important than the way they make you feel?

I’m sure you want to be with someone who will love you for who you are and not what they have or what they don’t have.

Some of you may have taken that risk and dated someone with opposite physical appearances or characteristics of what you would normally want in a mate. It seemed that because that person was so far fetched, it just didn’t work out.

Now, was it because that person listened to the dreaded country music so much or was it because that person’s priorities just didn’t match up to yours? What really happened was that person would rather listen to country music than give you a phone call.

Look carefully as to why the relationship isn’t working or hasn’t worked out. Do you really think it’s because you had to get on your tippy-toes to kiss that person because they were just too tall as to why your relationship failed or was it because that tall person spent most of their time at the gym on the basketball court?

Maybe you are a simple guy and dated that rich girl that just wanted to control you because she made more money than you did.

Let’s talk about those of you with a different experience. Some of you took that risk and dated someone with no checks on your checklist and that turned out to be the best decision of your life.

You took the chance to date that guy with the bald spot, and he turned out to be the most selfless person you’ve ever met. Maybe you decided to date that girl that weighs more than the average girl, and she brought out the best in you each and every day.

You decided to call that person that never got a college degree, but turns out they busted their butt and own a successful business and wants you to share that success with them.

Now, going back to that story I mentioned at the beginning. Before that young lady left the TV show, she broke up with the guy because she just wasn’t confident in the relationship because it was so different for her.

He looked different than what she’s usually attracted to, he talked differently, some of his interests were also different from hers. However, every day, he showed her just how much he really liked her.

He listened to her during conversations, respected her and at one point, even fought for her with another guy. She didn’t realize that really he was all she needed in a guy, but just presented differently than she was used to.

After the show, she just couldn’t get her mind off of this young man. She thought about how great he made her feel and she missed him terribly. She decided to take that risk, forget about that checklist and chase after the guy.

When they met up with each other again, he declared his love for her and she was happy to admit that she was willing to take that chance with him, so they committed to a loving relationship with each other. What a perfect ending!

3 Important Things You Need From a Partner

If you still aren’t sure what you need from your partner, here are three important characteristics from a partner for a successful relationship:

1. Find someone that is willing to make sacrifices for you.

Date someone who is willing to go above and beyond for you. Find someone willing to make a fool of themselves if it takes being with you. Find someone who will move mountains just to have a loving relationship with you. A person that is not afraid to show the world they will stop at nothing for you, is someone worth the risk.

2. Find someone you can trust.

Trust is important in any relationship. You have to trust someone in order to build a strong relationship with them. Trusting your partner is needed when you need to depend on them for anything. If you can’t trust that person, you can’t depend on them and if you can’t depend on them, this may eventually cause you frustration and hurt for you in the future.

Learn the importance of trust in valuable relationships from this great article.

3. Find someone that makes you feel good about yourself.

You want someone to love you for who you are– always. Sometimes, you may not have all the confidence you need, but your partner should be there for you to build your confidence, even when you can’t. We can all use support at times when we feel defeated and being with someone that can make you smile during those hard times is someone worth holding on to. Find someone that brings out the best in you at all times.

You just never know where you will find true love. I think if we take a chance on those willing to take a chance on us, we can’t go wrong.

What’s the worst that could happen? You date someone that eats disgusting raw sushi and you get some rice on your shirt? Then guess what, that person may love you so much, they are willing to clean that shirt for you or maybe even buy you a new one.

I say take that risk. You have a much better chance of finding love with someone that loves you rather than a checklist that you love. Instead of making a checklist of the wants in a partner, make a checklist of the things you need in a partner, this will increase your chances of finding love.

If you can find someone that has everything that you need and want, then you are surely blessed to have found an extra special partner. If you haven’t found a partner that gives you all you need, keep looking, that one person that you never thought you would like, just might surprise you.

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Have you ever made a checklist of certain qualities you’d want in a partner while looking for love? Did you find someone that checked all your boxes? Were you happy about your decision? Did you take a risk on someone that didn’t check all of the boxes? We would love to hear how things worked out for you, so go ahead and feel free to share your story with us and don’t forget to subscribe.