Best Ways to Start A Conversation with Your Husband
You’ve both been at work all day, and you finally have some downtime after the kids have been put to bed. Or maybe it’s early in the morning with your fresh cup of coffee and you have a few minutes before going in to work and starting your day.
This is a precious time for couples because it’s likely the only chance you’ll get to spend time together with just the two of you until date night. Your days get so busy that you rarely have time to sit and talk.
You’re both sitting on the couch, and the only thing you can think of to say is, “How was your day?” This happens to the best of us, and after asking how your day was over and over, it can start to feel like a regular question rather than a general interest in your partner’s day.
Instead, here are a few questions you can ask your husband besides how your day was. These questions can relate to his day or even bigger topics of discussion to increase engagement with him.
What’s something interesting that happened to you today?
If you want to know about your husband’s day, then don’t just come out and ask how your day was. Instead, ask a leading question that will likely get him to tell a story or to talk more about a specific part of his day.
Rather than asking him to sum up his whole day with good or bad, this will get him to think back on his day to something specific.
What’s _ been up to?
Did your husband see a mutual friend or coworker today? Ask him what they’ve been up to lately! This can be a great way to not only catch up with friends but allow you to discuss the same thing!
If no one particularly sticks out to him, try asking about a place instead such as what’s work been like lately or did (restaurant) have anything new on the menu?
Is there anything you’d like to do tonight?
This one can sound a little nagging at first, but over time it won’t start to sound that way. Instead, this will give your husband a chance to share something he was hoping to get done today.
It can also help him remember something he meant to do or tell you.
Is there anything I can do to make your day easier?
If your husband has had a particularly bad day, this can be a great way to help share some of the burdens of his day. Doing chores around the house might be a two-person job, but doing one of his could make a big difference for him if he’s having a stressful day.
The answer might be that he misses you and wants to spend time with you, but at least you thought to ask.
If you could do any part of today over again, what would it be?
If your husband is like mine, he usually forgets about the fun parts of the day just because he didn’t think about it right then and there. This is a great way to find out if something amazing happened to him today, or if there is just a part of his day that he found nice or important to him.
If we could pick up the kids and move to anywhere in the world, where would you want to go?
Just like conversations, our lives could get into a routine. Sometimes we want a change and a new zip-code may be the solution. Brainstorm with your husband and talk about different destinations he could see himself living with the family.
Check out this article that shows the Best Countries for Raising Kids.Was his favorite country top on the list?
What happened in that game you watched last night?
I’m willing to bet that your husband is into sports. If he is, asking him about the game he watched last night (while you looked at American Idol) would peak his interest.
For example, if he loves watching basketball ask him if his favorite team won, by how many points, who was the MVP of the game. You get the point.
How do you feel about (a political issue)?
Is your husband into politics? Spark up a conversation about a current political issue. Be careful to not start an argument. Listen to his view on things and ask if he had the power, what would he do differently.
This will also help you to learn about what your husband believes in and gives you the opportunity to respect his opinions on these issues.
What about (the hot ticket item) you want to buy?
More than likely, your husband is about to start a big project, need to fix something or just wants to buy a new toy. Ask him about the item he wants to buy and what he plans to do with it. Let him get excited and talk with him about getting that new toy for his collection.
What do you think this meant?
Do you guys attend bible study or any other classes together? After your classes end, continue the conversation with your husband. Get his thoughts and interpretations on verses or content taught in the class. Just because the class is over doesn’t mean the conversation has to be.
Conversation can be challenging to spark if you both are naturally not talkative. However, these questions will help spark conversation with your husband so you can talk more and enjoy time together.
What do you like to talk to your spouse about? Share the topics that has the most engagement between you two. We’d love to hear from you.