What is a Good Christian Wife?
What makes a good wife according to the Bible?
Are you a good wife? Or in other words, are you a married woman who is a strong believer in Jesus Christ and knows her priorities in life?
Well, a godly wife knows the difference between temporary happiness and everlasting contentment and brings that focus into every relationship in her life. A good Christian wife looks at her relationship with her husband as a godly marriage and how to overlook those minor flaws and cherish her husband.
You need to be a good wife, not just in the eyes of your husband but also in God’s eyes.
The good news is that it really doesn’t matter what other people think about you. If you are a good wife in God’s eyes and your husband is proud to have you, well, you would indeed score high as a good Christian wife.
So how does one become a good Christian wife? Read on to learn more.
A Good Christian Wife
The Bible demonstrates in a variety of ways how a husband is expected to cherish and honor his wife. Likewise, a Christian wife should follow certain guidelines on how to appreciate and honor her husband and work towards a godly marriage.
Surrender to Jesus
The first and foremost step in becoming a Christian wife is to surrender completely to the Holy Spirit and work under the lordship of Jesus.
Once you surrender, you can feel the empowering presence of the Lord and will start looking at life from his perspective. Now, you will approach your marriage and look at your husband with a different mindset and will no longer be that worldly woman with narrow and selfish desires.
The Lord will give you the wisdom and strength to deal with your marriage wisely and overcome all challenges.
1 John 4:8 says "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."
Let go of negativity
It is how we think, and our inner thoughts that shape our attitudes, and sometimes our attitudes can tear down our relationships with those around us.
Even if your husband has hurt you at times, you must not harbor any feelings of bitterness and resentment towards him and let go of those negative thoughts.
God knows what you’re thinking and what is going on inside your mind. So, make those changes for real and from inside and let go of your selfish interests.
Philippians 2:3–4: "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility, value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others."
Be a friend and companion
A Christian wife is like a friend to her husband and should always support him and never make him feel as if he is alone.
She should know and understand when to be there for her husband and when to give him space. She should enjoy spending as much time as possible with her husband and join him in all the activities he likes.
When a Christian wife remembers how God loves her, she finds the courage to love her husband even more and support him in the most difficult of circumstances. She offers her advice but lets him lead as the final decision rests with him, even if she disagrees with him at times.
A Christian wife will not initiate judgmental conversations with her husband and will be more responsive to his needs.
Ecclesiastes 4:9: "Two are better than one."
Be devoted and true
It is getting increasingly common to hear about extramarital affairs and failed marriages. A Christian wife must remain faithful to her husband, and her marriage vows that she took before Jesus.
She should be loyal and keep the interests of her husband at top priority. When a Christian wife honors her marriage vows, she brings respect in her relationship as well as honors God in her daily life.
She may feel let down or frustrating but must turn to God to find strength and energy to remain a trustful wife.
Proverbs 31:11-12: "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."
Do not compromise on self-respect
While a Christian wife is expected to love and honor her husband under all circumstances, it doesn’t mean that she is to become a doormat for him.
There is no excuse for any husband who harms his wife physically or emotionally. So, if you find yourself in an abusive marriage, the first step is to seek help from family, friends and get advice under the guidance of a faithful church.
Thus, it shows why it is of utmost importance for Christians to be members of a church community and get help and support when needed.
A Christian wife also realizes that thinking about herself and her self-respect is not selfish and will openly discuss her emotional and psychological needs with her husband.
Paul assets clearly on the matter" In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself." (Eph. 5:28–29)
If you need support for domestic abuse reach out to a helpful organization.
It is indeed difficult to be a good Christian wife because of our egos and sinful natures, and worldly desires. Thankfully, there is support and guidance available at all times in Bible and Church.
One just has to follow the perfect life of Christ to feel inspired and motivated. He alone can give you the strength to make your marriage stronger with sacrifice, commitment, and forgiveness.
All Christians are directed to be true in marriage and not just towards each other but towards God. However, all Christian women must keep their eyes open when they enter a marriage and get rid of any disillusionment that their husband or marriage is perfect.