Not Physically Attracted to Husband Anymore

What to do if you’re not sexually attracted to your husband anymore?

When couples fall in love, sexual attraction is an essential segment of their relationship.

They like to look at each other, feel, and caress each other with those long kisses. You feel a kind of magnetic attraction towards your spouse in the early years of marriage and can have a fulfillment of each other.

Every couple would like to sustain those feelings, but it is all a wishful thinking in reality.

After a couple of years, it takes more effort to keep the relationship fresh.

You look at your spouse, and they are no longer the same man or woman you married years ago. Their bodies, looks, and personalities have changed.

You feel that sexual attraction is fast disappearing and are clueless as to what to do or how to handle your sexual relationship. You wonder if it is possible to continue a healthy relationship despite the lack of sexual interest.

You feel guilty about getting attracted to another person with a magnetizing personality.

Well, worry not as you are not the only couple who feels that way. This is a perfectly normal and natural part of any long-term relationship, like marriage.

Still, that doesn’t mean you cannot do anything about that, and the sexual attraction is lost forever. There are some strategies that the couple can try out and become more attracted to each other once more.

Here are some ideas to explore on how to keep the attraction in your marriage.

1. Ask yourself about the possible reason behind the lack of attraction

Perhaps it has nothing to do with your partner, and there might be a potential medical reason behind your lack of interest in your spouse.

It could be your age, changing hormones, or those antidepressants you might be taking. Conditions such as depression and anxiety, too, can lower the sex drive.

So, look at the things objectively and discuss the issues with your doctor to rule out any medical condition.

2. Be honest and admit the lack of sexual attraction

black man and woman couple sitting on bench outdoors having a conversation

Sit down with your spouse and have an open conversation with each other. Chances are your spouse, too, is struggling with the same issues, and the first step is a good conversation.

Both of you are sure to feel relieved to talk things out and discuss the issue in a relaxed setting and outside the bedroom. Such frank and open talks will strengthen the trust and respect you have for each other.

Read this to get powerful tips on how to communicate effectively with your spouse.

3. Go to a marriage counselor and get some good advice

There is no harm in seeking help from a marriage therapist and discuss those intimacy issues and how to get over them.

There is every possibility that there are other issues that might be lacking in your marriage and have nothing to do with the bedroom. The marriage counselor can help you see things under the right light, and the sooner you get an appointment with him, the better.

4. Get in shape and look better

man and woman couple jogging in park wearing earbuds and headphones and exercise clothes

Why not hit the gym together and develop an exercise routine together to shed all that extra fat. Moreover, it never hurts to exercise, and it is good for your physical, as well as mental health.

Discuss ways on how to cut down on calories and maintain a healthier lifestyle. Such basic changes are sure to make you feel good about your partner and the marriage.

When you look and feel great, you are sure to get attracted to each other and feel good about your marriage.

5. Nurture the romantic side of your relationship

After some years, couples start taking each other for granted and stop interacting like romantic partners. There is no more of that quick kiss or holding hands or giving each other a compliment.

Start doing all of that to make the relationship romantic once more. You will soon find that you can’t wait to help your spouse in the kitchen or take the dog for a walk with them or help the kids with homework.

The romantic spark is sure to jump back in your marriage, and it would be like discovering each other all over again.

6. Look for the psychological or physical reasons

black man and woman couple sitting on couch as man faces away from woman as he is thinking

Sit down and think about your spouse as the lack of sexual attraction might have to do with some psychological reasons lurking underneath.

According to sex therapists, often repressed anger can lead to a lack of sexual attraction. You might not even know the real cause behind the anger.

Thus, it is essential to sort out any psychological reasons before you deal with the physical ones.

Learn more about the causes, symptoms and treatment for pent-up or unexpressed anger.

7. Have frank discussions as to what turns you on

Before you talk to your partner, talk to yourself as to what you would like to enjoy in bed and what turns you on. Discuss with your partner as to what you’re not getting, and you need to be bold in your suggestions.

However, whatever you say or do should not sound offensive for your partner and enjoy something that gives both more pleasure.

8. Try out new things together in the bedroom

Routine sex life can be boring when it takes place in the same place and the same position, so go ahead and try sex in different places and in different ways.

You could get wild in your bathtub or in front of your fireplace or on the couch. Learn new moves and surprise each other with innovative ideas but make sure that your partner is comfortable with the new ideas.

The bottom line is that lack of sexual attraction towards each other is something that many couples go through. The good news is that with the right strategies, you can work on those sexual desires and get that intimacy back in your marriage.

Marriage doesn’t run on its own but needs constant care and effort from both partners.

As maintaining a healthy sexual relationship is an essential part of any marriage, focus on the above strategies in case you feel that you are no longer attracted to your partner sexually. Both of you will soon find that lost attraction towards each other and find your spouse a lot more desirable in days to come.

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Use these tips to help you know how to maintain attraction to your husband in a marriage.

Are you in a marriage where there is no sexual or physical attraction in your relationship? What strategies did you use to gain that spark back into your marriage?